The universe is a product of what we can see and what we can’t see.
You can rocks, trees, and happy birds sailing through the evening sky. You can see nature and everything it contains. These are physical things we relate to on daily basis.
But is that all there is about existence? Is the world just a sphere of physical objects and materials?
The truthful answer is no. There is another realm that adds balance and meaning to the physical energies surrounding us. This is the realm of the spiritual.
This article is not dwelling the concept of “spiritual” connoting dark magic or sorcery, or any kind of diabolical practice. Rather, we’ll be examining the core concept of spiritualism to the human mind, psychology, and mental healthiness.
On that note, we will be checking out ten ways to become more spiritual. Before this, let’s take a peek look at the meaning of “spiritual” related to the subject matter of this article, shall we?
What does it mean to be Spiritual?
Eight out of every ten people will most probably assume that to be spiritual means to be a religious Monk, Muslim, or Christian.
This is not wrong. Every religion of the world has its notion of spirituality. However, spiritualism is not restricted only to religion. That is the conventional truth unknown to many people.
As a human being, you are both a physical and spiritual entity, regardless of being in any religion. The physical parts of you are your body parts, both external and internal, that can be seen and touched. They all constitute the physical components that made you up.
But there is another component of you in you. A component beyond what any scientific machine can see. It can only be felt, understood, and navigated by you. This is the realm of the spiritual.
The Oxford Dictionary defines this kind of “spiritual” as “a concept relating to the intellectual and higher endowments of the mind; mental; intellectual.”
If you check this Oxford dictionary definition, you’d notice one powerful there serving as the powerhouse for the possibility of spiritualism.
The human mind is the unseen power that controls the seen. No computer has seen the mind before. It is often used interchangeably with the brain, a physical and material component of the human body.
The human mind in Psychology is seen as the soul. Your very existence as a spiritual being is made possible as a result of your mind.
Without your mind, you can’t be spiritual in the first place. It is the presence of your mind that enables spiritualism to be a fact. The mind is the chamber of thoughts. It is the powerhouse where emotions are produced.
Love, joy, hatred, happiness, envy, anger, malice, kindness, benevolence, generosity, compassion, strife, reasoning. The list goes on. These are all productions of the mind.
If you see someone’s hand dipping into their pocket and handing someone money probably to help, do you think it’s the hand that thought of it?
Of course not. The mind conceived that act of kindness and executed it through the hand. Again, the concept of the mind as the unseen controller controlling what can be seen has been established.
This clearly shows there is a kind of dual interaction between the mind and the body.
This dualist relationship between the mind and the body is a major concern in Metaphysics, a branch of Philosophy. One of the prominent Metaphysicians is René Descartes, a dualist that wrote extensively on the mind/body relationship.
Having established the backbone of spiritualism, what does it mean to be spiritual as a human being?
According to Christina Puchalski, MD, Director of the George Washington Institute for Spirituality and Health, spirituality is “the aspect of humanity that refers to the way individuals seek and express meaning and purpose and the way they experience their connectedness to the moment, to self, to others, to nature, and the significant or sacred.”
Spirituality is an internal communion with the mind. It is when you connect with your mind that you will be able to relate well with others, nature, or to any other thing.
Here, spirituality is like a balance giving sense and meaning to existence. Without being spiritual, one will be insensitive and oblivious of the immediate world.
Such a degree of ignorance can rob one of life’s purpose and meaning. Hence, to be spiritual is a retrospective exercise involving an internal reflection of life.
Furthermore, Nurses Ruth Beckmann Murray and Judith Proctor Zenter write, “the spiritual dimension tries to be in harmony with the universe, and strives for answers about the infinite, and comes into focus when the person faces emotional stress, physical illness, or death.”
The means through which we connect with the universe is the mind. As humans, we are naturally inquisitive. We want to know more about our world. When we seek answers to these questions formed in our minds, it can be said that we are being spiritual.
The following are characteristic markers showing you are a spiritual person:
1. When you think of your future and how you fit into global development
2. When you ruminate on the existence and how to make the world a better place.
3. When you are sensitive and mindful of others, careful not to hurt their feelings.
4. When you mind your business, strive to have peace with your environment.
5. When you respect nature, animals, and the universe at large.
To mention but a few.
Furthermore, psychologically, being spiritual is largely about deciphering your inner awareness and voice. It is about knowing and learning the moral fundamentals of life: kindness, generosity, being considerate, forgiving, having a good heart, overall just being a good person.
In the next section, we’ll be checking out ten ways to show how to become a more spiritual person.
How to become more spiritual in 10 ways
In the previous section, we have justified the strand of spiritualism this article is focused on. You might have asked yourself, how can I be a spiritual human being and remain so? What can I do to maintain spirituality?
Below are ten workable ways that can help you in your pursuit of becoming a more spiritual person.
1. Be of help to others
Our existence on earth is not just for ourselves alone. We are here to help each other in the capacity we can afford. When we close our eyes to the needs of others in need of help, how can the world ever be a better place?
Before you can help others, you first must notice that others need help. This is a pointer to the fact that you are sensitive to the needs of others. It shows you are not self-centered.
So, be helpful to others. Someone around you needs your help. When you help them, the universe will work in such ways that you too will be helped whenever you need help. That is how it works.
You must however note that the help you render must be genuine. You shouldn’t help someone and make a noise about it. You are not being spiritual that way.
Cultivate the habit of helping others. It is one of the best ways of becoming more spiritual.
2. Forgive others
“To err is human, but to forgive is divine.”
You possibly might have come across the above statement before. It is normal to get angry when offended. We are emotional beings. When insulted, betrayed, or humiliated by others, we don’t naturally feel good about it.
Again, it is normal. However, harboring resentment and grudge against others will hamper your spiritual energy and growth. One of the biggest boosters of spiritual growth is the act of forgiveness.
Many people find it extremely hard to forgive others. Yet somehow they desire to grow spiritually. Sadly, it doesn’t work that way.
An unforgiving mind harbors hatred, resentment, or ill thoughts about others. It keeps records of wrongs and ruminates on that record every day. The more the records are reflected on, the angrier such mind becomes.
The angrier such mind becomes, the narrower chances of forgiveness become. The cycle goes on like that.
One negative thing about being unforgiving is the absence of internal peace. People that don’t forgive may not admit it, but they often don’t have internal peace of mind.
This is because a large percentage of their thoughts are focused on what has been done to them. This act of not letting go of offenses robs their minds off of peace and solitude.
We have not said that it is easy to forgive others. But it is possible. Just let it go. It’s past, maybe it had to be that way for mysterious reasons we cannot understand yet.
Forgive that your friend. Forgive your parents. Forgive your spouse. Forgive your boss. Forgive anyone who offended you. There’s no better way of becoming more spiritual than forgiving others.
3. Be truthful always
Lying has become something so common now it’s seen to be nothing anymore. However, being a liar doesn’t morally depict you well.
In most cases, when you lie, you have an intention of derailing others or deceiving them.
One bad thing about lying is that when you get addicted to it, it’ll be hard to set yourself free from it. It then becomes your second nature in such a way that you lie even on trivial occasions.
Lying disrupts your spiritual growth and well-being. It blemishes your spiritual stance and smears your societal reputation with negativity.
“Don’t take his words seriously. He’s a liar.” Don’t let people say this about you. It’s not something worth being proud of.
Being spiritual comes with a huge price. Being truthful is one of them. Being truthful can cost you some things. But don’t run away because of what it will cost you. Pay the price. It may not be easy, but be truthful. The more truthful you are, the more spiritual you become.
4. Stay away from envy
Being envious of others’ success or progress dampens your spiritual growth. It does you no good.
Envy results in unhealthy and even unnecessary rivalry. You begin to view others as being your competitors. You then begin to monitor their progress and match it with yours to see if they are doing better than you or not.
The truth is, there is no point in being envious of others. It has no point. Rather than compete with others, why not compete with yourself? Ask yourself, “am I better than I was yesterday?” “What have I gained today?” “Where should I work on becoming a better version of myself?”
Being envious of others will hinder your connectivity with others. You begin to see potential helpers as threats or competitors.
Learn to congratulate others when they achieve something you’ve achieved or not achieved. Celebrate other people’s greatness. Let it be genuine. Not a bogus celebration or felicitation from you.
Celebrating others with a pure mind fosters your spiritual growth. Imbibe in this culture and you’ll see how envy will be far away from you. In the end, you’d become more spiritual.
5. Love yourself
In the real sense of it, you are your best friend. When alone, yourself is all that you’ve got. Why not cultivate the healthy habit of loving this your best personal friend – yourself?
You’ve always heard that you should show love to others. This is good and morally expected of every person. But if you love others and throw yourself in a pit of self-hate, you are doing your soul more harm than good.
Why do you think there’s a high rate of suicide today? Why do you think many people, especially youths, are tired of life and everything in it? Why are millions of people in depression every day?
The answer to these questions will largely be found in this raw truth: most people don’t love themselves.
Self-hate and self-sabotaging will give you nothing but negativity. When you look at yourself in the mirror, all you’d see is failure and mediocrity. With such kind of personal reflection, you can’t expect to have positive results in anything you do.
You deserve to be loved not just by others but by yourself. When you love yourself, the universe returns the same energy love to you by making circumstances around you bear signatures of love and amicability.
What’s more, your love for others may not be as effectual as you want it to be if you don’t love yourself.
Salient among the rising pedestal to spiritual growth is the act of loving oneself. In the course of loving others, don’t forget to care for and love yourself.
6. Practice Meditation
According to the Oxford dictionary, to meditate means to contemplate; to keep the mind fixed upon something; to study. In another entry, it means to consider; to reflect on.
Meditation is an ancient art peculiar not only to religious sects but also to the martial arts and school of thought. It is a period of internal reflection where the meditator focuses their attention intently on something.
When you truly meditate on something, the whole of your attention is focused on that thing. A meditative mind is an undivided mind. For instance, you can’t say you’re meditating and you’re gisting with your friend simultaneously.
If you want to understand yourself or something better, try meditation. The thinking process in mediation gives you the opportunity needed to calmly study, reflect and understand something.
Meditation should be done on daily basis. Robyn McKay, Ph.D., an executive coach, and psychologist, writes “set aside time every day to meditate with the specific intention of connecting with your heart.”
She also noted that “meditation and prayer open the door for a greater sense of connection with the divine”. You have no idea of the mysteries you can unravel when you meditate upon something.
Scientists. Artists. Singers. Painters. Music composers, to mention but a few. These people reflect deeply on their respective subject matters. Isaac Newton for instance didn’t come up with the law of gravitation just because an apple fell on him.
The apple only validated what he’s been meditating upon for a long time. Thanks to Newton’s meditation, the world of science and technology has since been benefiting from the produce of his meditative mind.
There are secrets locked in the universe. They are waiting for the mind that will take time to meditate and unlock them. Do you desire to be more spiritual? Then embrace meditation.
7. Practice optimism
At some point in life, things may not have gone the way we planned. We might have been disappointed by people. Our expectations may not have been met. In the long run, our mind has been frozen with negativity and pessimism.
A spiritual person is an optimistic individual. When you see a true leader, you’ll discover that while the followers are complaining of a blocked road, such a leader will not let their hopes down.
“There’s a way”, they will say. And somehow, they will work out a way in practically hopeless situations. That is the power of being optimistic.
When you keep on seeing the bad side of life, chances of having a breakthrough are slim.
Even when things don’t appear good, a spiritual person will still keep their hopes high. You can’t say you’re spiritual and you are pessimistic. It’s impossible.
One of the markers of spirituality is optimism. When you expect good results and outcomes against discouraging odds, you are exhibiting a strong spiritual quality.
Practice optimism in your daily life. The optimistic energy you emit to the world will return positive results if you don’t relent. This is another excellent way of becoming more spiritual.
8. Savour the moment
We live in a modern world where the online world is more valued than the real world.
Imagine a scenario where a group of people goes for tourism. Don’t be surprised to see over 80 – 90% of these people engrossed with their phones. They are snapping pictures and setting the internet “on fire” with them.
It is good to seal off the memory of an event with pictures. It’s totally good. But it becomes negative when it is excessive and uncontrolled.
Rather than connect with the moment, many people abandon the moment with the futile attempt of saving it for the future via picture taking, video making, or chatting on social media platforms.
True connection with the world is marked by the savoring of the moment. Are your sense organs – ears, nose, skin, eyes – connected to your immediate world? Are you resonating in the same energy and frequency with the immediate world right in front of you?
Whether you are with friends in a recreational hangout, or you’re alone, learn to enjoy the moment. Connect with your immediate world. The habitual devotion of your energy to this will boost your happiness and foster your spiritual growth.
9. Make a wish list
This is another avenue of building your spirituality – making a wish list. There’s power in the written word. Rather than wishing it in your mind, write out your wishes.
Writing out your wishes not only seals them with permanency but also reiterates their message louder and better to you. You can always go over the list over and over again since it’s written.
What should a spiritual-minded wish-list contain? You can wish for as many positive things as possible, but it is recommendable you include virtues that foster self-love, patience, self-esteem, meditation, respect for others, to mention but a few.
When you have this wish list, then focus your energy on making the wishes a reality. Doing this gives you a sense of purpose and essence, and it’s a good way of boosting your inner joy and maintaining your spiritual growth.
10. Practice gratitude
Whether big or small, cultivate the habit of being grateful for what you have.
Ingratitude attracts arrays of complaints, unsatisfaction, grumblings, and pessimism. These negative emotional reactions can dampen your state of spirituality. Stay away from them.
When you commit yourself to being appreciative and grateful, high chances are that you’ll never be out of what to be grateful for.
Besides, being grateful makes you happy. It radiates you with hope and assurance of a better outcome in anything. So why not practice gratitude?
It is easier said than done. You can never be grateful if you don’t make up your mind to practice and show genuine gratitude.
When you’re ungrateful for little things, you’ll not be appreciative of bigger things when they come your way.
Being ungrateful can be a result of being unsatisfied or having one negative virtue or the other. Unless dealt with, ungratefulness can hinder your spiritual development as a person.
The concept of spiritualism attracts myriads of meaning. However, in this article, the strand of spiritualism focused on has been carefully clarified and established.
By being spiritual, we mean the act of being a morally good person that connects with the world both within and outside.
We have touched on ten ways that can help you to become a more spiritual person. It is our utmost belief you will find our thoughts helpful.
In that light, we enjoin you to put into practice what you’ve learned here, to experience a whole new phase of spiritual transformation.